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15-01-2022 05:59 PM
15-01-2022 05:59 PM
Are you a people pleaser?????
Hello @Jynx
Talking about.being a people pleaser
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15-01-2022 06:08 PM
15-01-2022 06:08 PM
Re: Are you a people pleaser?????
Good topic @Shaz51 !
I was a really bad people-pleaser (and still struggle with it too) and took me a long time to recognise that I needed to learn to recognise my own needs too!
People-pleasing is actually a trauma response! You can read more about it here. Would love to hear others' experiences too!
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15-01-2022 06:46 PM
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Re: Are you a people pleaser?????
Hello @Jynx
My mum just said I ammmmm too nice
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15-01-2022 07:07 PM
15-01-2022 07:07 PM
Re: Are you a people pleaser?????
Could not eat my dinner tonight @Jynx , @BlueBay , @Anastasia , @Emelia8 , @Judi9877 , @Faith-and-Hope , @Zoe7 , @ShiningStar , @Dimity , @Scoo , @Appleblossom
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15-01-2022 07:13 PM
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15-01-2022 07:16 PM
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Re: Are you a people pleaser?????
Thsts me - a fawner @Jynx
interesting read. It’s so me!!!
I hate confrontation
hate fights
cannot stand up for myself
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15-01-2022 07:17 PM
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15-01-2022 07:24 PM
15-01-2022 07:24 PM
Re: Are you a people pleaser?????
Hope ur OK @Shaz51 not feeling like eating is a worry.
Re being a people pleaser when I was working I had the bad habit of speaking up to bosses etc instead of leaving things unsaid. So I guess that's a no. Sticking my head over the parapet was what some called it. I guess I had good intentions if that counts for anything.
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15-01-2022 07:27 PM
15-01-2022 07:27 PM
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Aww @Shaz51 sounds super complicated, and thus super stressful! I hope you can have a little snack later on.
Since when is being too nice a character flaw! If others take advantage of that, then shame on them, not on you!
@BlueBay Super interesting to learn hey! It helped me to be a little bit nicer to myself, because I needed to learn that I am actually allowed to want and have things! The tricky part is learning to listen to my own wants, because so often when I ask myself what I want it can appear to be stuff like "I just want this person to be happy" or "I just want us not to fight."
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15-01-2022 07:28 PM
15-01-2022 07:28 PM
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Hugs @Dimity
Mr shaz and I have set up a table for tomorrow morning tea under the patio with no aircon
My mum did not want everyone crammed into her bedroom tomorrow xxx