17-04-2025 09:42 PM
17-04-2025 09:42 PM
Thanks @Appleblossom
I think I'll stay on the forums as I do get a lot out of it, including from you. I may just limit time at least for a while. I am going to be really busy for a few weeks anyhow.
I don't browse much but sometimes I just decide to, and I also bought some scarves for gifts
17-04-2025 09:44 PM
17-04-2025 09:44 PM
Thanks @Dreamy sometimes it's particularly hard to show self-compassion, even if showing compassion to others at the same time. It's like one of your posts on Toolbox said
17-04-2025 09:51 PM
17-04-2025 09:51 PM
@Till23 yes I understand. I struggle to show any kindness or compassion to myself but yet I'm great at showing it to others. Too many times I've been hurt and put down by others, so much so that it's become truth to me and it's how i see myself. In times like this I've found that hearing from others on here can be so helpful, to know that there are people that care and that don't want to hurt me, people that remind me that I'm worthy of that kindness and compassion. It's still hard to accept it but I'm hopeful that one day I can learn to and maybe I can see myself how others here see me.
17-04-2025 09:58 PM
17-04-2025 09:59 PM
17-04-2025 10:05 PM
17-04-2025 10:05 PM
Yes, I agree @Dreamy I do find the forums supportive and helpful in providing another perspective, when you are finding it difficult to have any other than a negative perspective.
I have noticed you struggling with the same thing even when you are very active on forums supporting others.
I hope you are going as okay as possible given the circumstances
17-04-2025 10:07 PM
17-04-2025 10:07 PM
Thanks @Dimity
I hope you are going well with your gardening projects and within yourself
17-04-2025 10:11 PM
17-04-2025 10:11 PM
@Till23 it's always easy to show others kindness and compassion but showing the same to yourself is hard and something we have to try to learn to do when we have been through so much trauma. It's no easy task cos our brains are very much wired to that negative perspective and anything else feels like a threat so we continue in that same cycle of negative thoughts towards ourselves.
Life's hard at the moment and each day feels impossible to get through but I'm doing my best and just living minute by minute.
Have you got much planned for the long weekend?
17-04-2025 10:13 PM
17-04-2025 10:13 PM
Thanks @Till23 . Likewise.
I'm a little shaky at present but getting by.
I've been touched by your deep commitment to your responsibility as a traditional custodian. I respect that. I trust I can support that in small ways and it will influence my upcoming vote.
17-04-2025 10:32 PM
17-04-2025 10:32 PM
Yes I agree @Dreamy
I'm sorry life is not good for you at the moment, hopefully it's part of a cycle and you'll be on your way up again soon.
Yes I'm also currently in a one foot in front of the other stage.
I have my sport on two days, but not much else.
After that though I am very busy with a bit of work, a bit of sport competition and a bit of advocacy for an upcoming cancer fundraising event.
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